Looking around now days coming across many experiences of conversations of toddlers and their parents , I feel surprised, shocked, amazed on the reactions , behaviors and words from those little humans who have just started their journey in this big world.
Not only me but the parents also get equally surprised by the questions and responses of their toddler.
It makes me think, did we really want our kids to respond like this? Are we really putting in right values in our kids?
Are we right to put the entire blame on T.V, Media and over all Environment surrounding us in this 21st century?
Sitting and teaching a child about being honest, responsible, considerate, sincere doesn’t help and has never helped. Olden times and even movies can be a good proof for you where an ideal mother never had long preaching conversation with the growing kid but her own conduct and poise was the biggest life long learning for the child and he grows up with amazing values and turns out to be a gentleman recalling their parents behavior which we really miss in today’s generation.
Schools do put in effort to teach values to young kids but their intervention is too late and for limited time period.
The Truth, of course, is that we as parents do teach values to kids daily, every minute of their lives. Yes it’s not confined to an hour lecture or conversation with your toddler and you feel you are doing right teaching. It happens every day, every minute, unknowingly/ knowingly you are teaching your child.
The way children learn values, simply put, is by observing what you do, and drawing conclusions about what you think is important in life. Regardless of what you consciously teach them.
Each one of us is full of good and bad habits. We have numerous negative and positive emotions and it’s difficult to act ideal all the time. Yes still we as a parent want our kids not to copy our bad.
Most important is we need to make sure that anger, anxiety, frustration and many more our own evils don’t get in our way of raising our child and that’s called perfect parenting .
Let us help you out in practicing few simple step to be a not perfect but at least a balanced parent to your child and raise him/her with natural inherited values which will make you a proud parent in future.
1: Be well aware of – You are a role model for them. What kind? – You have to decide
2. Practice honesty sincerity, calmness in real life and not over talks with them.Children copy what you do. Your talks and preaching are useless until you don’t practice them naturally in your daily life.
3. Discuss with them the reason of your certain decision or reaction you made- Its extremely important to remove the confusion from their mind of the split behavior .There always lies a reason and your child has rights to know it
4. Empathy, Behavior with others, reactions, your way and pitch of conversing are the major traits they catch faster then you think. There are many instances where a toddler copies exactly the same words, gestures and behavior as one of the parent. Your acting in front of them becomes extremely important Be Aware.
5. Label and reinforce expression of Values followed by them: Express, Be happy, proud, reward on every good catch of value you see in your child. It makes them feel content and reinforce that they are on right path.
Hope this piece of writing will help the parents.
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